All along, I thought that I was doing a great job. I thought I was “better” than those “other” stepparents who chose to do things differently. It never crossed my mind that a less involved stepparent may be 更好 for the kids. Now, I wonder. Would everyone have been 更好 off had I backed off a bit? Would it have been nicer to have a stepparent who was not so involved? Kept their distance? Had much less to say? The kids would have had more time with Mom and Dad.